Sabtu, 31 Maret 2012

Listening with no mouth

Idea of this post came from my friend's tweet,
"I need ears, with no mouth.."
It was a metaphor, she wanted someone to (just) listen to her..

Have you ever listened someone that asked you to listen to?
I mean, really listened to him/her.
We need ears to listen, that's all we need.
Listen with no mouth means leaving any activities when we listen to someone.
It also means we should be empathy and not making any judgement about him/her.

I know it's really hard to do,
especially when your bestfriend fell into a jerk
or when your bestfriend forgave his boyfie who has cheated on her.
But sometimes people make mistake, right?
I think being a bestfriend means we have to be ready to catch our friends whenever they fall.
Yep, this post is also a lesson for me.
We need our ears to listen, not our mouth.

They stole my heart..

Sorry for posting too late.
Just want to give a lil surprise :p

I joined Jatinangor Education Care and decided to be an English teacher in fifth grade at Cikeruh primary school.

There are some pictures,
sorry for the quality I just took them with my phone and the class is quite dark.

Ka Novi is teaching
 There's no even a lamp inside the class, and they still use chalk and blackboard.
Yes everything is so limited, the ceiling is broken, either the door.
Hard to believe that they still have so much spirit. 
The boys were singing in the class.. 
They sang a song in sundanese and since I don't know sundanese I have no idea what the song about.. -,- hahahaha..

They're all very bright and active.
My partner (Kak Novi) and I sometimes have hectic time to arrange them all. --"
But overall, they really stole my heart. :')

Jumat, 30 Maret 2012

Kopi (baca: pasangan) yang pas

Ini percakapan dengan salah satu temen gue yang menutup hari kemarin menjadi hari yang tidak (begitu) buruk, jangan tanya ada apa siangnya yang jelas sepanjang hari kemarin emosi gue benar-benar sedang diuji ketahanannya.. :p
Jadi, kami berdua membicarakan soal kriteria pasangan masing-masing.
Gue memulai dengan kriteria gue yang seabrek-abrek..
*Gapapalah ya namanya juga kriteria, masi fleksibel sifatnya*

Lalu saat tiba gilirannya dia cuma memberikan satu kriteria, ya memang cuma satu.
"Gue mau yang pas,"

Gue jelas protes,
"Lo tau ngga kalo yang namanya pas dalam skala nilai satu sampe sepuluh itu nilainya cuma tujuh. Kalo lo bisa dapet yang maksimal kenapa mau yang standar?"

"Gue maunya yang pas, bukan yang standar. Pas itu bukan standar.."

Akhirnya untuk mendapatkan definisi yang jelas dari 'pas' ini gue memutuskan buat ber-analogi.
"Ibarat kopi, menurut gue pas adalah kopi sachet instan yang diproduksi massal. Sekali produksi ada sekitar sekian ribu sachet. Dijualnya dimana-mana, di warung ada, di supermarket ada. Cuma butuh uang dua ribu udah bisa lu dapetin. Diminumnya juga cuma tinggal seduh aja, beres.." kata gue dengan semangat berapi-api.

Sekarang giliran dia yang berpendapat, gue diam mendengarkan.
"Pas itu beda sama standar. Kalo dianalogikan sama kopi jelas bukan kopi sachet instan yang murah kaya yang lo bilang. Pas itu kaya kopi yang gue suka. Pasti beda sama yang orang lain suka, menurut gue secangkir kopi engga boleh kehilangan rasa pahitnya, tapi engga boleh juga sampe ga ada manisnya sama sekali. Suhunya harus sesuai sama yang gue suka, kalo dingin jadi ilang citarasanya, kalo panas engga bisa diminum. Semua orang menurut gue punya kadar pas-nya sendiri.."
Ya, kalimat-kalimat terakhir sedikit banyak mengubah cara gue berfikir.
Gue rasa, gue pun engga terlalu suka kopi yang gimana-gimana amat.
*kopi disini masih analogi*
Setiap orang, menurut gue akhirnya memang lebih suka meminum kopi yang pas buat mereka setiap pagi.
*sekali lagi, kopinya masih analogi*

Kamis, 29 Maret 2012

When anger comes up

I prefer being silent.
So that I won't hurt people around me with my words.

I prefer being silent.
And wait the anger goes away.

I prefer being silent.
And cry.

I often hurt myself.


Rabu, 28 Maret 2012

Find a guy..

Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot,
who calls you back when you hang up with him,
who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat,
or will stay awake just to watch you sleep.
Wait for the boy who kisses your forehead,
who wants to show you off to the world when you're in sweats,
who holds your hand in front of his friends,
who thinks you're just as pretty without any make-up on.
One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares 
and how lucky him to have you,
The one who turns to his friends and says, "That's her.."

Senin, 26 Maret 2012

Aaaaaaaaaa I'm being crazy with owl..

Peeps, first of all I need to tell you that this post is very random..
 I found some pictures of owl, aaaaaaa since owl is my nickname--I'm crazy of this cute creature..

Yes you must be wondering what things are in my mind but I can't control myself when looking at these kind of pics..

they're so cute.. :3

ps: sorry for random-ing

Minggu, 25 Maret 2012

How to stay young and happy

I found this in my email, sent by my mom..
How I miss her a lot..

There are 10 ways to stay young and happy :

1. Throw out nonessential numbers. 
This includes age, weight, and height.
Let the doctors worry about them.. That is why you pay them..

2. Keep only cheerful friends. 
The grouches pull you down.
Keep this in mind if you are one of those grouches!
3. Keep learning.
Learn more about computer, crafts, whatever.
Never let the brain get idle. Avoid Alzheimer's!

4. Enjoy the simple things.

5. Laugh often, long, and loud.
Laugh until you gasp of breath. And if you have a friend who makes you laugh, spen lots of time with him/her.
6. And if the tears happen,
endure, grieve, and move on.
the only person who is with us our entire life is ourself.
LIVE while you are alive.

7. Surround yourself with what you love.
Whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever.
Your home is your refuge.
8. Cherish your health.
If it is good, preserve it.
If it is unstable, improve it.
If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.

9. Don't take guilt trips.
Take trip to the mall, even to a foreign country, but NOT to where the guilt is.
10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.

Jumat, 23 Maret 2012

Money can't even buy

I'm alive peeps,
I was beating all the assignments.. LOL
ps : these pics below aren't mine. I have no time for snapping any pics :(

This evening,
A friend of mine was asking (via chat) about my hair,
he said that my hairs are now dull and mess up.
He said that there're two black circle around my eyes.
He also said that my face is now lack of nutrition so that look so bad.
I smiled while typing the answers.
Yes, my hairs are now dull and mess up. I walk everyday under the sun directly.
Yes, there're two black circles around my eyes. I got them by sleepless doing my assigments.
and yes, my face now is lack of nutrition. I can't put treatment on my sched plus I walk between the pollutions everyday.

I can fix them all, don't worry..
My hairs and faces (including the black circles) can be fixed by many treatments that can be bought with some money.
Something that money can't buy is my 'now' time.
My sleepless time when I did my assignments.
My great time that I spent with my girl friends no matter how hot the weather is.
My lecture and super great lecturers.
And I'm happy for being me, I'm grateful for having such friends like I do now.
I'm sure, someday when I graduated. Someday when I can earn my own bucks. Someday when I don't need to do any assignments. I can get better appearance.

I'm now just enjoying the things which money can't even buy..

Minggu, 18 Maret 2012

Jung's Personality Test (similar to MBTI)

Have you heard about Jung's personality test?

Jung approached personality and 'psychological types' (also referred to as Jung's psychological archetypes) from a perpective of clinical psychoanalysis.
Carl Jung's 'psychological types' structure continue to provide the basis of many of the leading psychometrics systems and instrumenrs in use today, including Myers Briggs and Keirsey.

You can get the test by clicking here

This guy

Yep it's now 3:18 AM and I haven't slept yet.
Listening many love songs while writing and this idea just appear like
Yes I do love romantic movie, I do love them.
And sometimes I wish I can have a really sweet story just like they have in the script.
I wish there's a guy with no doubt come to me with a bucket of roses and so on..
But life has its own script which is written by God, huh?
Sometimes it's bitter, sometimes all we feel is just pain and hurt..
We can't just wish that someday we find a guy that would do many sweet things as an actor in a movie does.
We can't just wish that we will find a guy who act like mind reader and know everything in our mind.
Our life is real, and I try to accept it..
We may no have a super romantic guy but we have a guy who promise us that he won't leave us no matter how bad the situation is. He promises that we will always be his one and only beautiful girl even when we put no make up in our face.
All we have is just a guy who listen to us when everything seems so messed up and all we can do is crying on his shoulder. He will whisper that everything is gonna be alright and somehow magically we believe him.
And a guy who can't dance or even sing in the rain.
A guy who makes us happy just for standing by his side.

When we have this kind of guy, I think the actor in romantic movie will be so meaningless.
Don't you know why?
Because this guy is real, he doesn't act by a script.
He acts with his heart.
And that's more than enough.

Expectation build perception

Okay, I've told you that my lesson is now about perception.
In this chapter I learned that our expectation build perception.
can you read 'perception' word in this pic?
We won't recognize a loaf of bread as a mailbox in a kitchen because we don't expect a mailbox in a kitchen.
In short, we will process our sensory input and fit it with our expectation.
When you see a black thing in the dark, if the black thing has a tail, you will expect it as a cat or dog instead of a purse.
This makes me wondering.
Do we do the same in feeling?
Does our expectation build perception?
If we do, the we have more probabilities to fall into wrong person.
Our expectation of that person will build our perception about him/her.
And (if you ask me) yes we have more probabilities to be broken..
But hey, wait..
It's all about probabilities, right?
There will always be good result for us who lucky enough..
and I believe, good things can make good life..


I am now doing my assignment about perception and recognition.
Yes, that's definitely not an easy assignment but I feel no bored when I was doing it. LOL.
Heihoo, I found some pictures that can test your perception..
Enjoy it, peeps..

Romance or nightmare

A face or a painter

How many faces that you see?

A face or a man playing music?

A young lady or a grandmother?

Flowers or a beautidul face?

Selasa, 13 Maret 2012

Feedback VS Judgement

First of all, I want to say sorry because I haven't posted any useful posts in several days.
I've some problems bugging in my head, LOL.

Today's lecture was about attention and localization, some friends of mine presented a good presentation about that topic with (of course) an interesting video.

After the presentation, our lecturer (Mr.Nelwan, Peter) told us how to make a good work in team-work.
One thing that really impress me is about giving feedback to our partner in team-work.
Mr.Nelwan also told us that giving feedback is so much different from judging.
In a team-work to improve our team ability, we should give feedback instead of judgement.
At first, I thought that feedback and judgement are more less similar.
Till Mr.Nelwan gave us some example;

Judgement : "You're lazy."
Feedback : "I observed that you always come late into our meeting. I thought it'll be better if you come on time next time.."

Judgement : "You're so useless."
Feedback : "I observed that you have less contibution in our discussion, is there any material that you haven't got it yet? You can ask us if you want to.."
Judgement is subjective (even offensive) and change not even a thing.
By giving feedback you can tell them the fact with solution which is helping them to develop more.
Feedback can also be positive (feedback is divided by two ; negative feedback and positive feedback). When your friend come early before the meeting is start, he/she prepared all the things before anyone come. You can give him/her a positive feedback by saying, "I really appreciate for what he/she did so we can discuss conveniently.."

Yes, since now I will give feedback instead of judgement..

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